Happy to report no Freudian slips on TV yesterday. When I have the footage I’ll post it here. It was a very short segment but hopefully people got the message: stuff = time + money. Let go of what you don’t use, and stop accumulating, and you’ll have more of both.
I think you may be minimalizing something else though, and wonder if it’s intentional.
It appears you have a sex-based division of roles for you and your husband. You stay home with your child. You will find this will create a minimalist career and insecure future for you too, if that continues. Not your husband of course, who has a growing CV, established credit rating, skills accumulation, contacts/network support, professional reputation.
Sometimes minimalism is not a good thing.
To answer the comment I will get a bit personal for a moment.
My husband is an entrepreneur. His income fluctuates. What he does to earn a living fluctuates. While he has interesting skills and knowledge, we both agree that I’m much more employable. I have an undergraduate degree and work experience that make me a desirable candidate to work ‘for the man’ so to speak.
I’m mostly a stay at home. I say mostly, because my son Henry goes to daycare twice a week while I work on my freelance writing career. Because we have scaled down our lifestyle and possessions I am able to do this. I’m thankful every day to have a spouse that is supporting me as I pursue this dream.
As for the other things mentioned that I missing out on by taking time away from the corporate world, my broad answer is this: my life is not about the accumulation of wealth. I want to pursue work that is meaningful to me. Now that I’m no longer focused on a five year plan to upgrade everything I own, I can tolerate and accept that my time away from the corporate world will impact my earning potential. My previous jobs have been gratifying in that I received praise for a job well done and enjoyed working hard, but they weren’t rewarding. Doing something just because you are good at it isn’t always the best reason to pursue a career or climb the corporate ladder.
I’m 33 years old and in the last few years I’ve noticed a small trend among my peers. A few people I know that have been in lucrative jobs, jobs they were successful at, have left them to return to school for something they are passionate about. Obviously the reward of money and the prestige of a sexy job title at a large company were not enough to keep them in careers they didn’t enjoy. It’s like that Starbucks cup quote is coming to life in front of me:
Failure’s hard, but success is far more dangerous. If you’re successful at the wrong thing, the mix of praise and money and opportunity can lock you in forever. ~ Po Bronson
It’s true, I don’t have any guarantees of a career and a sweet employee share program to cushion me into retirement. But are those a necessity for a happy life? I’m reminded every day that there’s more to life than making a lot of money.
As for our more “traditional roles”, yes, I am currently home manager in our humble abode. My spouse and I have discussed at length that at some point he may take over that role and I may be the primary breadwinner so to speak. If that happens, I know my husband would enjoy more time with Henry and the freedom to pursue his own passion projects.
This is not meant as an attack on the commenter. I really like a good conversation starter from another point of view. It definitely reminded me of this Salon article about a recently divorced freelance writer that gave up her career to stay at home with her children. It also reminded me of another quote that has inspired me over the years.
Risk nothing and you risk everything.
Thoughts and comments welcome. Am I making a big mistake going after a dream and enjoying these early years with my son at home? Is it too hard to believe that I am okay with not making a lot of money in my life?
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