If you’re new to minimalism and looking for more how to and inspiration on living with less stuff, here are three e-books I recommend:
Finances: paying off over $50,000 in debt in less than a year was a huge feat for us. Our approach was pretty simple: we spent less and sold things we weren’t using. If you need a pep talk in getting started, along with more detailed how to, I suggest Unautomate Your Finances by Adam Baker. I’ve now read it a few times and it’s helping me stay on track as we tackle the rest of our debt.
Getting rid of clutter: Getting rid of more than half of our things was exhausting. I blindly attacked rooms and drawers and spent two months with piles of things to sell and donate in my living room. For a more methodical approach, I recommend the 30 Day Clutter Bootcamp by Tanja Hoegland.
Minimalism: Leo’s book The Simple Guide to a Minimalist Life was the first e-book I read on minimalism and is a great way for anyone to get started. He writes in a very gentle and approachable manner.
Now back to my post of the day: more thoughts on why I deleted my Facebook account.
Some of you may be using Facebook in a thoughtful and engaged manner to connect with friends, loved ones, causes and groups that you care about. I applaud you and wish you continued success with that.
For me, Facebook had become Procrastination-book. Any time I was trying to buckle down to write (I’m a freelance writer. I’ve dropped the ‘trying to be’ part of that the job title since selling my first article a few weeks ago) I’d check Facebook. I didn’t spend hours on the site, but checking a few times a day had become a compulsion. It had become a habit gone bad.
Beyond a bad habit, I was also concerned with the rampant narcissism Facebook fed into. Unflattering photo of me with my son on his first trip to the pool? Un-tag. Un-tag despite the fact that it was his first time at the pool and he looked adorable. Un-tag because my five months post-partum figure was not what I wanted people to see.
I was not alone in this narcissism. I barely recognized some of my friends from their smoldering, over the shoulder, hair tousled, profile photos.
I didn’t like how much I was checking Facebook and I didn’t like how I was using it. If you don’t like something you are doing change it.
I tried turning notifications off to help. It worked for a bit. Then I wondered, am I missing a key message about a meet up with friends?
This post by Faith at Minimalist at Home and Courtney’s notes about the downside of minimalism put things in perspective for me. I want to use the Internet for good in my life. I don’t want it to be a crutch for boredom, procrastination or narcissism. So I deleted my Facebook profile.
Have I missed some social invites from not being on Facebook? Probably. But the upside is too big for me to let the downside draw me back. I feel less tethered to the Internet. I feel more connected to the people around me. When I use the Internet, it’s for reading, commenting, writing and research that brings me positive and thoughtful ways to connect and understand myself, my surroundings and others. I continue to remind myself that screen time should be used to make your time away from it better.
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