The great Tammy Strobel had a post this week about what’s real.
From Tammy’s post:
By “real life”, I mean living a conscious life. A life that is focused on connecting with others. Not a life that’s focused on the “should’s” or a life that’s spent in front of the computer screen or with our own unrealistic expectations.
I love what Tammy wrote above. When I take time away from the screen and do “real” things – meet up with friends, visit the library, go to swim class with Henry, have a non-movie date with Chris – I find I am content and recharged. When I enjoy where I am at RIGHT NOW, instead of thinking about SOMEDAY, I enjoy my days more.
Right now I’m getting back into running. I need to stop beating myself up about not getting longer runs in because I am pushing around a toddler that isn’t up for sitting in a stroller for long lengths of time. I need to stop thinking about someday running a sub-four hour marathon and enjoy where I am at today.
Right now we are paying off debt and working on downsizing our possessions and spending. I need to stop thinking about dreamy modern sofas or someday home exchanges in Spain. Life is good without them.
I’m all for dreams, goals and enjoying memories. When I do go on that vacation and run the sub-4 I’ll enjoy it. But shouldn’t right now be the good stuff?
I’m working on being less wanty lately so you’ll probably see more talk of this here. How do you balance goals for the future with enjoying today? How do you get over wanting things that you don’t need? In some ways getting rid of the stuff is the easy part. Getting over the wanting the stuff is trickier. You’re just one bad stress shop or flip through a J Crew catalogue away from slipping back into your old ways.
*So worth it to wait in line for some of the best pizza in Naples, possibly the world.
links I liked this week
The secret to a clean home: Meagan Francis dissects the secret to having a clean home and reveals it’s not a secret, it’s a mindset. There are some shout outs to going a bit minimalish (as my friend is now calling herself after a ground breaking wardrobe declutter).
Shopping Embargo 2011: I’ve heard of no-spend windows before but I really liked Andrea Tompkins take on it. On her blog, Quiet Fish, she outlines that Jan 1 – Feb 28 is a no spend window on non consumables for her family. Andrea doesn’t seem like a frugaltarian, or a minimalist, but a woman keeping things in check. I’m all about moderation, even in minimalism. Do what works for you. *We’re making plans here to kick it up a notch on debt reduction and will be doing something similar to Andrea’s Shopping Embargo. We don’t buy many “things” anymore but we have lots of room to curb spending at Starbucks and the movie theatre. I will put a call out to see if anyone else wants to play along.
Think you can’t afford travel? Yes, we traveled while in debt but our most recent three week run through Italy, Morrocco and Spain was saved for with change. A year and half of change (along with frequent flyer miles and a gracious week of free accomodation) got us driving through Italy, touring the bazzars of Marrakech and lounging around seaside Marbella, Spain. Seth Kugel of the NYT tells it like it is: there are choices to be made and you have to decide what your limits are.
Have a great weekend and remember to unplugg!
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