I’m not perfect. I’m not a perfect minimalist or mom and I’ve tried, and failed, at a lot of things. I don’t do it all.
While I’m really happy with my life, the balance of family time, the chance to be a stay-at-home mom and also a work-at-home mom, I still fail, and fail regularly, at a lot of things. I either try them out and they don’t work for me or I set a goal and don’t meet it.
My home usually looks okay but far from Pinterest worthy. I enjoy tidying the kitchen after dinner, wiping down counters and washing pots and pans, but I’ll put off cleaning windows until the dirt disturbs the view. I like to, and have to, invite people over to force my hand at some of the dirtier household tasks.
This morning I pulled a pair of Henry’s jeans out of his dirty laundry hamper and spot cleaned them so he could wear them. You need to be really on top of laundry if your two year old only has three pairs of trousers/jeans and it’s a cold summer.
Here are a few of my confessions for recent failures or things I’ve tried and given up on for now.
I’m back to using a dishwasher.
Since moving into a new home with a bright and spacious kitchen, I’ve gone back to using the dishwasher every other day. I still do all of my pots and pans by hand and a few dishes. But our dishwasher is doing the lion’s share of work. I liked doing all of our dishes by hand but at some point I slipped into using the dishwasher and I liked it more.
The other thing that changed is that our new home came furnished with a lot of dishes. In our previous flat all of the mugs, plates and bowls only filled half the dishwasher. There wasn’t really a point to running a half full dishwasher.
Last Friday our dishwasher bit the dust so I’ve been doing everything by hand until it gets fixed later this week. It’s really not that bad. But I will fully admit that when the dishwasher is back in working order I’ll be using it.
My home isn’t feeling that minimalist right now.
In the last two months bits and pieces, books and pens and the usual detritus of a home, have found their way out of their drawers and shelves and I haven’t put them all back. I’ve got a pile of clean-ish clothing hung over one of the doors on our wardrobe. I sorted Henry’s toys and books the other week and I’ve yet to do anything with the ones that need to be donated or stored.
I’ve been getting the vacuuming done and dinner on the table but not a lot else done around our house.
This is my excuse:
My son has watched more television than I’m comfortable with in the last eight weeks.
Due to severe afternoon and evening fatigue and bouts of nausea, Henry’s watched way too much Bob the Builder. We’ve been able to get out in the mornings but the afternoons have been a struggle. I am so thankful for the beach across the street and the horse tram the comes by every twenty minutes and that my husband will come home in the evenings and play the chasing game with him. Henry has definitely gotten a raw deal the last two months thanks to his sibling.
Accept the season you’re in.
Tsh over at Simple Mom writes a lot about the season of life that you’re in and that you have to accept the limitations of them.
I’ve had to accept that I’m not in a season of getting a lot done at the moment. I’ve been too tired to write in the evenings and some of my home projects, like decorating, have fallen by the wayside.
It’s okay. I’ll get back to them. I’ve turned a corner now that I’m in the second trimester and I’m not so tired.
I’ll get back to them but the last two months has been a good reminder about the season I’ll be entering in January. A season without a lot of sleep and with a new baby to take care. I’m not lowering the bar but I’m trying to be mindful of what’s realistic in the next year and a half. I’m trying to keep my mind open about the adjustment period and the growing pains of adding another person to our family.
I’m trying to remind myself that life is going to change and the best way to deal with that is to change with it.
Anyone else in a season of life that has lead to a bit of clutter and letting some of your goals take a back seat?