We arrived home from the hospital with no bed for our new baby.
It wasn’t a case of ardent minimalism that left baby #2 with no bed. Nor was it a case of being unprepared. We just assumed that he would be like our first child and only sleep for a long stretch in our bed, a carrier or stroller.
We were pleasantly surprised when he slept 2-3 hour chunks in his bassinet at the hospital and later in the bouncer at home. Friends loaned us a bassinet and stand when he was a few days old. Thanks friends!
As for a nursery, this time around I haven’t bothered.
Clothing and cloth diapers are stored in two baskets in our living room. That’s where we spend most of our time.
In the evening I bring a small basket of overnight essentials for him to our bedroom where he sleeps. Eventually he will share a room with his brother.
Decorating and furnishing a nursery can be a wonderful activity for expectant parents. But it isn’t essential.
It’s hard not to feel the pressure to makes space for and decorate a nursery when we’re inundated by gorgeous photos of whimsically decorated baby rooms on sites like Oh Dee Doh and Pinterest.
I pined for a room like that with our first child. You can see my attempt in the photo above. It’s true, I really enjoyed the room. But we rarely used it. Our son ended up co-sleeping and we used the nursery as a play room for a few hours a day. That beautiful crib with an expensive mattress was only slept in a few times before we sold it to move overseas.
It’s okay to skip the nursery. It’s okay to just have a crib and essentials in a room. No Etsy prints on the walls or rug to match the crib bedding.
You’re not a bad parent.
It doesn’t mean you love your child any less.
Our ‘nursery’ right now is a few bins in the living room, a glider in our bedroom and a drawer in our older son’s room. Nothing worthy of sharing photos of but also, nothing to be embarrassed by or feel that we aren’t giving our son a great start in life.
Baby #2 is smiling, laughing, sleeping well and in the 75th percentile for weight – not shabby for a baby who came home to no bed!
Anyone else skip decorating and furnishing a traditional nursery? Was it for convenience, space or budget reasons? Do you feel like you missed out on a right of passage?
Are you an expectant or new parent and want to live simply? Less mess and stress, more sleep and time? My book, The Minimalist Mom: How to Simply Parent Your Baby (Adams 2016) is a great guide for simplifying, spending less and finding more time when you have a new baby.