Two and a half years ago I deleted my personal Facebook account.
Biggest reason for the change: I was wasting a lot of time reading about other people’s lives instead of living my own.
I’ve had fleeting thoughts of opening another account since we moved overseas. I know it’s an easy way to be ‘in the loop’ and I’ve been told numerous times that I missed out on an invitation to something because I don’t have a Facebook account.
Also, without cable television and a Facebook account I am embarrassingly in the dark on popular culture. In a few years Henry will keep me up to date, right?
So I have considered opening a personal Facebook account again and yet… I still feel that if I’d end up reading status updates of people I barely know at eleven o’clock at night instead of getting the sleep I need. I’d wonder why I wasn’t invited to something I saw pictures of on Facebook and spend too much time worrying about passive aggressive status updates of acquaintances (did I somehow offend them??).
So right now, having a Facebook account still isn’t for me. Yes, I know many of you love it and responsibly enjoy a great tool for sharing and connecting with friends. Perhaps some day I’ll feel ready to rejoin the Facebook world.
The other thing not having a Facebook account helps me with: Fear Of Missing Out.
Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) is just what it sounds like. You’re spending an afternoon at a park and instead of enjoying the moment, you’re looking at Facebook updates from friends attending a music festival and wishing you were there.
The title of Mindy Kaling’s book, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? , aptly sums up FOMO.
People high in FOMO… feel less competent, less autonomous and less connected with others than people who don’t worry about being left out. – Stephanie Pappas for the Huffington Post
Ignorance is bliss. Really. That’s what I’ve learned since limiting my personal social media.
Sure, I may have fewer choices because I’m not connected and monitoring everything everyone else is doing. But I seem to have enough invitations and activities to keep myself and my family as busy as we want to be.
Have you experienced Fear of Missing Out? Do you think social media exacerbates FOMO?