I don’t want the free t-shirt with entry.
I don’t want the pen from the bank, the cheap umbrella that comes free with purchase or the gift bag.
Please save me from the gift bag. The overly perfumed soaps and the vouchers for so many things I will never buy. Save me from having to take it home and recycle and donate it all.
Friends and family: I don’t want the stuff that you don’t want anymore.
When you come by with a box of things you don’t want or need, things you realized you never wanted in the first place but that you know someone else must want because you can remember handing over cash for it so it must be worth something to someone, when you hand all of that to me, know that it’s not a gift you’ve given me.
Your unwanted goods are now my unwanted goods and the burden is now on me to sort, donate and recycle all those things. Can I say “not it” and you’ll take it back and do the work yourself?
Free is not free.