Delia Ephron wrote an essay about cake and having it all in the New York Times. It’s stuck with me since I read it a day ago and I really wanted to share the link here.
Having it all seems to breed wanting more. And since we can’t have it all because it is statistically impossible, and since there is no such thing as more than all, the whole notion seems, I’m sorry to say, depressingly American.
- Delia Ephron
It’s easy to get wrapped up in trying to have it all.
Even me, trying to live the quiet life with less stuff, I sometimes get focused on having it all.
Sure, my having it all doesn’t include a lot of material things but it does include a few things that are often just out of my grasp. More sleep, perfectly productive writing hours, going to bed with no dishes drying in the drying rack and making some effort with my appearance beyond just wearing clothes. I’m often thinking about and wanting that one magical day when it all comes together: the workout, the work, the meal, the kids, the kitchen floor with no bits of breakfast stuck to it. That’s the short term day to day wanting it all.
In the big picture I already feel like I have it all. I’m pretty content with my marriage, home and work life at the moment and I think/hope I am laying the foundation for future contentment in these areas. I hope that doesn’t sound trite or too simplistic. Having it all for me doesn’t mean everything in my life is Pinterest worthy – because almost none of it is! – but it does mean I’m engaged in big and small things that feed my soul.
To me, having it all — if one wants to define it at all — is the magical time when what you want and what you have match up.
- Delia Ephron
We can have it all but there is a catch. Delia writes about having it all in moments, some small and some big, and that we have to be content with these moments. Content with those moments and accept that although we can’t have it all, we can always have cake.
Go read You Can’t Have it All, but You Can Have Cake now!
P.S. Delia’s essay is adapted from her forthcoming book Sister Mother Husband Dog (etc). I’ve pre-ordered a copy!