Your Clutter Coach

 

Sometimes you need more help than a book or a blog can give you.

Sometimes you need a friend to remind you to donate those bags of unworn clothing that are sitting in your basement.

Sometimes you need someone to make a plan for you, motivate you and keep you accountable.

Sometimes you need a Clutter Coach.

I get a lot of emails asking for help. I always respond (even it takes me a while) with advice, suggestion and encouragement.

And I always wonder, did they carve out a weekend to clean out that attic? Are they in the throes of home purging and feeling beaten by the process? Did they pull out some boxes from under their bed, lose a few hours looking through old junk, and then decide it was all too much work?

For some time I’ve wanted to help beyond the posts on this blog. Something very personal for paring down and living smaller.

A book wasn’t the answer. There are already some great books out there like Family-Sized Minimalism and Clutter Bootcamp for inspiration and how-to. A book can’t hold your hand, give you a kick in the butt or suggest another method for dealing with all that mail.

I want to do those things.

I want to see closets go from jam packed to roomy.

I want to help people get more sleep.

I want to find solutions for the mud room clutter that can be so hard to reign in.

So I’ve started something new.

Your Clutter Coach

This is for people that:

  • can’t make the time to declutter even after reading a lot of books and blogs on the subject
  • get sidetracked by old photos and trinkets every time they attempt to clean out the guest room
  • have pared down their stuff but it crept back quickly
  • need motivation and accountability to clear clutter for good

Your Clutter Coach is a personalized decluttering program. It’s tailored to your lifestyle, your needs and your schedule. It’s me kicking your butt and you kicking ass.

You can read more about the services here.

If you’re interested in the program I am currently giving away one free Four Week Clutter Coaching Program at Parenting with Crappy Pictures (if you haven’t visited this site before it is hilarious). The giveaway is open until Tuesday May 8th at 8pm PST. Head on over to read the details and enter.

PS. This will be the only time I mention Your Clutter Coach in a big post like this.

A Rich Life with Less Stuff: Year One

 

A quick post to let you know that I have compiled all my posts from my first year into a free e-book. If you want to read about our journey chronologically this is a great way to do it. You’ll have all of the posts, with pictures and links, in order and can read through at your leisure.

From experience, I know it can be challenging when you find a new blog and can’t easily read through previous posts. I always get a bit frustrated when I find a new writer and blog that I like and I have to slowly piece together their history through a blog archive.

So here is A Rich Life with Less Stuff: Year One free to download! You can read the PDF on an e-reader or your computer or print it out (last resort – save those trees!).

Again, thanks for reading and I appreciate all of you that share this blog with your friends and family. You’ve grown the community here exponentially over the last year and I am so grateful!

Note: you can download the book for free but there is a suggested price of $2 if you would like to donate to blog maintenance, hosting and design costs. Suggested, appreciated, but definitely not required. Please feel free to share this book as often as you like!

 

A Rich Life with Less Stuff: Year One

A full year of paring down, reducing, donating and ending the spending.

Read about how we:

  • reduced our wardrobes by 80%
  • became a car-free family
  • reduced toy clutter
  • ditched our ‘smart phones’ for better family time
  • paid off $82,000  in debt
  • got our possessions down to 14 boxes and 5 bins in preparation for moving overseas
  • forgot about the Jones’ and focused on ourselves
  • started living a rich life with less stuff

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traveling light with a toddler

I’m back from my blogging/digital sabbatical. Went a week longer than I expected. Putting a lot of my spare time into The Minimalist Mom’s Guide to Baby’s First Year but I should be writing here more regularly now. Need to. Have some wardrobe switch over and paring down to work on for fall and we have a few flat organization/furniture moving projects in mind. September is a great time for starting new routines and getting things done. I’ll be working on both in the next month. Hope you had a great August!

Traveling with small children is daunting. Vomit, airport fits, the challenge of flights with an under two baby-in-arms, mid-flight diaper changes and entertaining or soothing young people can seem like more hassle than travel is worth.

Oh, and lugging a lot of stuff. Who wants to throw their back out carrying 20 pounds of baby and dragging a stroller filled with carry-ons and toys through the airport. There is also the stress of being “those people” with the screaming baby or the toddler kicking the seat back of a stranger. Fun.

Despite the extra work of traveling with a young child, we’re doing it. Living overseas is a great opportunity for us to see a lot of Europe for less money, and with less jet lag, than when we were living in Canada. So we’ll grin and bear it when our kid has a tired/hungry/bored meltdown on a flight or in an airport.

We’ve also found that despite notes from many parents to the contrary, we don’t need to pack loads of stuff for our toddler. You can be prepared and still pack light. And the benefits of less luggage are many fold. If you bring less stuff you can:

  • take advantage of budget airlines. It cost the three of us just under 300 GBP (around 500 USD) to fly round trip to Dublin. While Henry flew “in-arms” there was still a 20 GBP charge + taxes for him each way. Budget airlines reward travelers that pack light. If you can’t cut down on your luggage you’ll end up paying a lot more money to fly.
  • get more time on the ground by not checking bags. We had to check a bag this trip to accommodate Chris bringing his work laptop. But everything else we packed could have easily fit into two carry-ons. No checked bags means you aren’t waiting at a luggage carousel for bags and losing time exploring.
  • save money with public transport. We used a Dublin City express bus to get from the airport into the city. It was dirt cheap and easy for us to take because we could easily move all of our luggage ourselves.
  • less stress. When you’re tired from travel or an early morning flight, you are more likely to snap at your partner, and have less patience with your child, when your bags are heavy. The heavier the bags, the more frustrated you are going to be when you face the inevitable delays associated with finding hotels and catching flights.

Henry’s travel wardrobe is in the picture above. Here is what we packed him for a 4 night, 5 day trip:

  1. hooded sweatshirt
  2. one pair of shoes
  3. two pairs of socks
  4. one pair jeans, one pair pants
  5. babylegs
  6. three long sleeve tees, one short sleeved tee
  7. one long sleeved dri-fit onesie

No pajamas were packed. We didn’t bring along  an extra pair of shoes or a second jacket or a third pair of pants. Henry wore the jeans, one pair of socks, the shoes, hooded sweatshirt and a long sleeved top on the fight. For pajamas he wore the babylegs with the dri-fit onesie. By the final day the dri-fit onesie was the last clean item so he wore it as a shirt. Yes, his clothes got messy and yes, I did some spot cleaning of the jeans to get another day out of them. But it wasn’t much work and well worth it to pack light.

Other Henry items we packed:

  1. collapsible stroller
  2. Ergo baby carrier
  3. three small toys that fit in my carry-on
  4. one board book
  5. diapers and wipes
  6. sippy cup *might ditch this on another trip of this length. Henry drinks water or milk from a cup at meals and can easily drink from our water bottles.

No booster seat for meals, or big toys or multiple books or toddler dishes, or even a bib. No car seat needed as we took public transportation. We ended up getting hotel breakfast comped (sweet!) and they had a high chair. Henry ate off a regular side plate, used a teaspoon to eat his yogort and I tucked a napkin into his shirt to keep it, mostly, clean. I also didn’t bother packing over the counter medications for any of us. If it was needed we could easily find a Pharmacy in Dublin (for long trips in non-English speaking countries I do pack a small case of medications).

Henry is at an interesting stage for mobility. He can actually walk quite a bit, and wants to, but he isn’t great at taking direction on where to walk or holding our hands. In Dublin we let him roam in safe areas and then put him in the stroller for longer walks. The carrier was great for him to nap in while we were on the bus and I also wore him in it during the Guinness Store House Tour so we could skip the elevators and take the stairs. I think in another six months we could just bring the stroller or the carrier and save some space.

I’m facing a me and child trans-Atlantic trip this month and the Dublin trip gave me confidence that I don’t need to bring lots of stuff. It did not, however, assuage my fears about flights with my almost two year-old in-arms. The flight to Dublin was 30 minutes and Henry made us work to keep him entertained for it. My trip back to Canada for a wedding will mean an eight hour flight each way. The plane also doesn’t have in-seat entertainment. Meaning no TV. So I will bring a few more toys and books than the Dublin trip.

I’ve done long flights with Henry before but it was when he was much smaller, less mobile and slept more. In fact, I would say under six months is a great time to fly with a baby. The white noise of being in flight helps them sleep and they don’t need a lot of entertaining. If you have a newborn and are thinking of planning a trip do it. It’s a great window to start traveling as a family.

Those are my tips and ideas on travel and traveling light with a toddler. What are yours? I would love some entertainment ideas for flights that don’t require packing a lot of stuff. Like bring a pen and make a puppet out of a sick bag.

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Minimalist Travel: Living on the Road with 4 Children

This is another guest post from the Smeenks, a Canadian family of 6 traveling overseas indefinitely. You can read Jenn’s initial post about preparing to leave Canada and how they let go of their possessions here. It’s a great read. Particularly if you have a larger home or many children.

Today Jenn is going to give us more details about how they travel and what they travel with. Reading it has given me more to think about for our everyday living. Quality over quantity can’t be beat. And I love hearing about the impact travel and living a minimalist life has had on the children. Enjoy and thanks again, Jenn!

You can follow the Smeenks adventures on their blog At Home in the World.

in Venice

Living on the Road with 4 Children
This past year, our family of six spent seven months backpacking through the countries of Spain, Morocco, Italy, Turkey, and France. Carrying our belongings with us was an important factor to consider.
This second post describes in detail what our minimalist travel lifestyle has been so far during our travels.
What do we travel with?
We started our travels with one large backpack and two carry on day packs for us adults and our two older children (ages 9 and 8 at the time). Our two younger ones had a small day pack each. We also had a small carry-on rolling red suitcase filled with our homeschooling books. Over time and a couple countries, we still found we were carrying way too much. So during our third month in Turkey, we sent home two of our day packs and many of our homeschooling books, and gave away our extraneous clothes and toys to the locals there.
Clothing:
Each member of our family owned 5 pairs of underwear, 3 pairs of socks, 1 fleece jacket, 1 bathing suit, a microfiber towel, a pair of sandals (the girls brought their black boots on top of their hikers and sandals), tuque, mitts, rain coats and rain pants, 1 set of pyjamas, 4-5 interchangeable outfits (1 sweater included, 1 dress for the girls and 1 button-up shirt and dress pants for the boys). I also brought my running clothes. As well, we ended up buying rain boots in Turkey.
We tried to bring as many light weight, quick drying clothing in dark colours. We brought SmartWool socks (keeps feet dry and warm, does not smell, and dries quickly) for the adults and black cotton sport socks for the kids. We regretted going cheap here and not buying the children SmartWool socks, and will certainly stock up before our next adventure.
Electronics:
We packed our electronics in our daypacks: A Garmin GPS (super handy with walking maps – we didn’t get lost in the chaotic mazes of Morocco’s medinas), Kindle e-Reader, 1 Canon digital SLR camera, 2 small point and shoot cameras, 1 digital video camera (we never used it and mailed it back), 3 Nintendo DSi’s, my Garmin running watch, 1 iPod shuffle, 2 laptops, and 2 netbooks (one for the girls and one for the boys for homeschool).
Important Miscellaneous:
4 international travel adapters, 1 red umbrella, toiletries, one pair of binoculars, first aid kit, medication kit, 4 head lamps for reading at night, 2 braided rubber laundry lines with carabiners, international rubber sink plug, a small bottle of liquid laundry soap, and sewing kit.

paragliding!!

How long do you typically stay in a city?
That varied tremendously because of our goals and activities in each country; but typically, we’d like to stay at least one week to get a feel for the place.
In Spain we spent 1 month in an apartment in the Costa del Sol, which was a five minute walk from the beach. We lived there and homeschooled. We took day trips to the surrounding areas such as Gibraltar, La Ronda, Sevilla, and Marbella.
In Morocco we spent 6 days in Marrakech then took a road trip loop around the country across the High Atlas Mountains, through the Dades and Todres Gorges, stayed a night in two different Saharan deserts, then spent our last three nights in Fes.
After Morocco, we stayed in Barcelona for a week to rest and catch our breath. We walked around the city to admire the Christmas lights and decorations. We spent our Christmas and New Year Holidays in Rome and Vatican City, as we were there for 20 days.
After New Years, we stayed 2 months in an apartment in Turkey to rest and catch up on homeschool. We then spent our third month backpacking around Turkey, ending our trip in Istanbul. From there, we spent 3 weeks in Italy – 1 week in Venice, 1 week in Cinque Terre and 1-3 days in other cities like Milan, Florence, Bologna.
We spent one month in France with a week stay in Cannes, 2 weeks in Montpellier, and 10 days in Paris.

in Turkey


How long do you see your family traveling for?
This is an ever changing topic. We plan to be overseas for 3-5 years, returning home to Canada for the summers to be with family. Seven months was a good dip in the water for our first long term travel experience. It has opened our eyes to the possibilities of our future! Nothing feels more exhilarating to us than opening the world map and asking each family member where we’d like to go in the next few years. We’re dreaming big together as a family!
We’ve also learned that living out of a backpack and constantly moving is exhausting. We didn’t realize how stressful it can be to find appropriate accommodations for a family of six along the way, when most places take a maximum of 5 people to a room. We need and desire to travel more slowly!
Depending on our finances and time, I think we are going to be changing our travelling style by staying in one place for 6-12 months to get a deeper sense of a country and its culture.
We’re spending our summer at home in Canada to prepare for another year away. This August we’re returning to France and plan to live in Southern France for at least 6 months to immerse ourselves in the French culture. We plan to enrol the kids in the local French school there so they can continue to work on their second language.

How have the children reacted to moving and traveling? Do they ever 
ask for/about things you had back home?
I think one of the best gifts we’ve received from this whole experience of selling our stuff and travelling the world is seeing our children in a different light. We have seen first-hand how incredibly capable they are. Actually, my heart bursts with pride, joy and astonishment for them because they have shown us how naturally adaptable and cooperative they can be.
They’re great at walking several kilometres at a time, and have learned how to cross the street safely in all sorts of traffic. They’ve slept in trains, cars, and overnight buses. I am so impressed by how well they travel! I love their openness to new things and their positive attitudes in exploring different countries. On the other hand, who wouldn’t have a good attitude when riding a camel through the desert in Morocco, paragliding on a spectacular beach in Turkey, or visiting world famous monuments and museums? The world is their classroom and their playground! More than anything, we wanted to open our children’s eyes to the possibilities around them, like studying art in world renowned schools, and working, living, and volunteering internationally.
Travelling with school age children is great! They’re small enough to fit into a double bed and young enough to be half price for most admissions and transportation fares. We’ve received a lot of complements by strangers at how well behaved and patient they are. As well, our kids have learned how to watch out for each other and have developed closer relationships. We hope their childhood travel memories will bond them for life. Several of our family and friends have noticed a big change in our children. They’ve remarked at how mature they’ve become this past year. They’re less demanding and are able to sit still to think, read, or visit.
The things that they did miss were their bikes and some of their toys (especially their Legos and Nerf guns). However, backpacking for 7 months has taught us to look at our stuff differently. It helped us distinguish between our needs and wants. We discovered that we rarely needed anything, but we wanted so much; and that having too much unnecessary stuff to carry was a burden. What a valuable lesson!



What are the biggest challenges with having fewer things?

We discovered that things wear out quickly. Our limited supply of socks and clothes sprouted holes from the constant wearing and washing. The kids, especially the boys, sprouted holes on the knees of their pants. Yet overall, we never felt like we had fewer things. It actually felt more the opposite – because we carried our things, we always felt we had too much.

What are the rewards of having fewer things?
Less to worry about! Having fewer things brings simplicity in our lives, a detachment from things, and a freedom from the preoccupation of keeping up with the Joneses.
Doing the laundry is no longer overwhelming because I deal with only one pile of clothes at a time instead of a mountain heap. I’ve actually enjoyed hanging them on the line to dry. The clothes we own are good quality and ones we love to wear. We’ve learned not to be careless with our clothing. For example, the kids have learned to be careful with not getting their clothes dirty so that they could wear it for another day. Back home, typically they would wear a shirt once and then throw it in the laundry, even though it was still clean. They’ve since learned that they could still wear clothes at least a couple of times (especially jeans) before throwing it in the wash.
Living with less has taken away our preoccupation to acquire things, clearing our minds to focus on what is really important – our personal growth, relationships, future, hopes and dreams.
Our travelling minimalist life is a choice, and we are incredibly surprised at how deeply rewarding it is. We love our travel lifestyle!

If you were to travel long term with your children, what would you bring and how would you carry it? How has your Minimalist lifestyle affected your children?

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Minimalist Families: on the road with the Smeenks

A few months back I wandered upon the Smeenks blog and started reading up on their global travels as a family of six. I was intrigued by this Canadian family, not only because they were globe trottters, but I was also fascinated to know more about how they sold their large home and the decisions they made to allow themselves to go on the road. How did the children react to letting go of toys and books? And what about Jennifer and her husband? Was it challenging to sell a home they had spent many years and dollars making their own?

Jennifer graciously took some time out to answer some questions about their downsize and move to extended travel. I know you will enjoy this post. I read it and immediately started to think about how we could do something similar in a few years. Enjoy!

Erg Chebbi, Sahara Desert, Morocco

Living our Dreams with our Minimalist Lifestyle
If someone were to promise you that one of your dreams of ________________ (please fill in the blanks) would come true, and all you had to do was ______________, would you do it?
A year and a half ago, we filled in these blanks.
Our dream was to travel the world together as a family, and we sold our house and much of our things to do it. Call us crazy, but we did.
We’re a Canadian family of 6 who have a passion to travel and experience the world.  We enjoy spending time together and love to learn about different countries and cultures.  We stumbled into a minimalist lifestyle in order to accomplish our travel dreams. By definition, we’re not hard core minimalists, just minimalists out of necessity for our travel lifestyle.
Selling our home and most of our belongings wasn’t easy. It was emotionally challenging and a lot of work to get rid of our stuff. Like everyone else around us, we were consumerists, and were raising little consumerists. We were attached to our stuff, and spent our time and money accumulating more to clutter up our already full lives. We owned two vehicles and a large house. Our family of 6 could definitely accumulate a lot in a big house!
We really loved our house. We spent a lot of time and money renovating it according to our tastes. We owned a beautifully decorated home complete with a home theatre room (designed by my engineer husband), exercise room, handmade play castle in the basement, childrens’ theme rooms, and a luxurious master bedroom with ensuite jacuzzi bath. It wasn’t just a house, but a home we were very proud of.
Originally, our idea was to rent it out partially furnished during the time we were away.  But after some number crunching, we realized that it was impossible to find renters who could afford the rent to cover the expenses, let alone manage a little cash flow from the rental.  On top of that, the thought of being away for a long period of time with the fear of all our expensive theatre equipment broken or stolen by renters didn’t sit well with us.  We came to the conclusion that it was necessary to sell our house in order to free ourselves completely from any worries or hassles while we were gone.
My husband and I honestly thought we were crazy to be so compelled to turn our lives upside down for this one big dream which haunted us for nearly a decade. We had everything one could ask for in life –a healthy family, a beautiful home, a great community of family and friends we belonged to. Why would we want to change any of that?
Our hearts were telling us to go for it. We felt that our time was now or never. But it was hard to trust that we were doing the right thing. We grappled with our attachment to our house and our family travel dreams. Then we asked ourselves: Who owns who?  Do we own this house, or does this house own us? We didn’t want our big luxurious home to anchor us back from our dreams.
Our hearts were yearning for something more than a conventional life. Deep down, we knew we took so many things in our life for granted. We wanted to open our eyes and hearts to the world and discover who we were as a family without all our stuff. We wanted to stop letting what we owned from defining our identity. We wanted to take our children out of the ethnocentric beliefs of our North American Culture and give them a better understanding of the world.  We wanted something more for our children’s lives than fast foods, a busy calendar of extracurricular activities, and the preoccupation of keeping up with the Joneses. We realized that being together and growing closer as a family with each travel experience was more important to us than having a lot of nice expensive things.
So we sold our house. We also got rid of 80% of our belongings through donations to charities, freecycling to family and friends, and by selling items online and through a garage sale. We gave away our Ford station wagon to a cousin who was in need of a vehicle. We sold, donated, and gave away probably 90% of our clothes, toys, books (did I mention we’re book-aholics?). We also sold about half of our furniture and linens, and most of our electronics.


We kept our van, bikes, leather couches, huge family size kitchen table and chairs, our beds, and our special personal keepsakes. It didn’t make sense to sell the furniture we would need once we returned home after a few years satiating our wanderlust. The luxury item we kept was our wooden play castle, lovingly hand-made by a relative, which we consider as heirloom kids furniture. In the end of our material purging, we filled a double garage up with all our belongings. Our family van takes up half of the garage, and the other half is filled with the rest of our things.
We learned valuable lessons from getting rid of our stuff. First of all, we were embarrassed to own so much. I still cringe with the memory of sorting through a mountain of shoes which 6 pairs of feet have accumulated. Having too much stuff was wasteful and cost money to keep, store, and maintain. By purging our material things, we experienced how freeing it was.
Breaking our attachment to things was empowering. By taking away our preoccupation to acquire more stuff, we were able to focus on what was really important to us – our family and friends, our dreams, and living a peaceful happy and fulfilling life that makes a difference in the world. We also discovered that our children had an easier time letting go of the house and their stuff than we did. In some ways, they cared less about their things than we had expected.
Since October 2010, we’ve backpacked to the countries of Spain, Morocco, Vatican City, Turkey, Italy, Monaco, and France. We’ve experienced unforgettable memories together, like riding a camel in the Sahara desert, watching a bullfight in Spain, celebrating Christmas and New Years in Vatican City, paragliding in Turkey, visiting world famous museums, historical monuments and buildings. Instead of spending our money to buy things, we invest our time and money in creating unforgettable memories with each other. We are closer as a family more than ever before because we are journeying together and living our dreams.


Our nomadic travel lifestyle requires us to be watchful of what material possessions we buy because we always have to consider how to carry our things efficiently. The less we own, the less weighed down and freer we are to travel the world easily. We’ve discovered that we could definitely live well with the very little we owned in our backpacks. As travellers, we can’t go back to a consumerist lifestyle even if we wanted to.  We have no choice but to keep it simple in order to travel lightly.
We are living our dreams with our minimalist lifestyle!
In our next post, I’ll describe more about our travel lifestyle.
So what’s your big dream? What would you do to make your dreams come true? Is your stuff holding you back from your dreams like it did ours?

Want to know more about the Smeenks? You can read about their adventures on their blog: At Home in the World .

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